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Everything You Need to Know About Speed Dating

Speed Dating

Speed dating is one of the rising phenomena in the world of dating. It helps you meet a lot of people, with the meeting lasting 3 to 8 minutes each. It is an organized way of meeting prospects.

History

Speed dating was developed by Rabbi Yaavoc Deyo of Aish Ha Torah, who created the idea for Jewish singles to find each other in large areas where the Jewish community is a minority. Aish Ha Torah even owns the word “SpeedDating,” although it is now used to generally refer to the concept. Other terms include 3-minute dating, hurry dating, fast dating, and 8-minute dating. The first event of this kind was held in Beverly Hills in 1998. It was further promoted when used in an episode in Sex and the City in 2000.

The best point about speed dating is that it is safe. It helps you meet prospects fast and broadens your social circle at the same time. One event may allow you to meet as many as 25 prospects. Some dating agencies organize 8 to 25 meeting numbers and find people who are in the same age range.

How It Works

Girls and guys, of equal number, are usually invited to a trendy bar, café, or lounge. Everyone is asked to introduce themselves using their first name alone, with each meeting lasting for 3 to 8 minutes. When the glass clinks or the bell rings, the males will move to the next table. You will be asked to choose which people you’d want to meet again. If those people reciprocated the feeling, you will be provided with contacts to each other.
You need to come to the event on time to avoid being thrown out. If you’re late, they will cancel your dating card right away.

How to Dress Up

You need to stand out during the event, but your outfit should match the venue. Good hygiene is necessary as well. You can wear a little perfume, but don’t make it too overpowering. Look as natural as you can. Be confident and be yourself.

Establishing First Impressions

You only need an average of 4 seconds to look at another person’s face, body, and clothes. People can decide whether to date you or night within a few minutes. The more positive the impression you have created on the other person, the harder that other person will work to establish a relationship with you, according to an Ohio University research. This is a self-fulfilling prediction that determines how much effort you invest in making a relationship work. If the other person doesn’t see a future with you, he or she will do everything to stop it from working.

To make a good first impression, here are some tips:
• Compliment the other person to win their attention and affection, but make sure to do it sincerely.
• Simplify your questions.
• Introduce yourself

To keep the conversation going, the following pointers should help:
• Keep the focus on the other person.
• Avoid shallow questions.
• Don’t interrogate or interview your date.
• Learn about their interests.
• Talk about siblings, movies, sports, movies, past holidays, and careers.
• Keep your eyes on the goal – to score a date.
• Boost their confidence.

Understanding Body Language

One of the drawbacks of speed dating is that there are too many signals to analyze within such a short period of time. If you know how to read body language, you can distinguish those signals more easily.

A girl who’s interested will sit up straight from having her legs crossed. If she’s really interested, she will establish eye contact with the guy while tilting her head. She wants to be honest if she shows her palms or wrist. She runs her fingers through her hair if she’s sexually interested, or play with their necklace or necks. They also tend to stick their chests forward when they see an interesting guy.

A guy who’s interested will start touching his tie, playing with his hair, or rubbing his nose. He tends to open his lap if he’s interested. He might not be interested in the girl if he starts to fiddle or fidget, although this is also a sign of nervousness. He starts to hold his glass higher or at the same level as his chest if he feels defensive. He doesn’t want anything to do with the other person if he crosses his arms over his chest. A slumped position on his chair and his shifty eyes are not good signs either.

If you still want to give speed dating a try, look them up on dating agencies. You can even find them online these days and have fun with this new experience.…

Eight Things Men Think But Don’t Tell You

Man Think

So, you think got him all figured out, huh? After months of dining outs and movie dates, you guys are all cozy on the couch, beer at hand and watching the latest chick flick or beating each other in Xbox. Everything’s going smoothly and this might just be the real deal. But that are still some things he’s not telling you. It might be because he’s not as deep as you are in the relationship or it might just be his ego kicking him, preventing him to express himself fully. Whatever it is, here’s a heads up so you’ll know how to deal with it when you think the time has come.

“Your family really scares me.”
Either the constant contact, the gruff father, the nagging mother, the crazy sister, or the bearded big brother, there will always be some aspect of your family that scares the seat out of him. It’s normal. He wants to please them, and he’s scared to disappoint them. He’s scared that they might disapprove of him and that their disapproval might influence the way you think about him. His self-esteem just needs a little bit of nudging that’s all. If you like him, he must be likable so show him what you like about him, highlight them and make him work on the rough edges.

“I’m not sure how good I am at that sex thing you seem to enjoy.”
Admit it. Once in a while, you faked an orgasm. Whatever “that thing” may be, however much you’ve encouraged or praised it, he’s still not sure if he’s a pro at it and feels a little self-conscious each time. The female body is an elaborate and wondrous thing so don’t get tired of convincing him that he’s doing something right and making him feel proud of himself for pleasuring you.

“I’m not 100% where I want to be professional.”
Frankly, no one is. But he’s scared to admit it. Wherever he is on his career ladder, he must still want to do better, climb higher and become more successful. Actually, this is good. A man who constantly pushes his boundaries challenges himself and consistently aims for achievement is better than someone who is satisfied in mediocrity. Show him how supportive you are, that you’ll be there for him all throughout the way, and soon, he’ll be confident to talk to you about his career aspirations.

“I have a body complex as well.”
It’s true. He sucks in his gut every time he takes off his shirt and hopes you don’t notice. He might never admit this to you, but really, you make him self-conscious all the time because he likes you a lot. If he shows you he loves your stretch marks and dark underarms, it’s high time you show him you like him back, beer belly and all.

“I have occasional doubts about us.”
No one in a relationship is 100% sure all of the time. Mostly he’s head over heels for you, but once in a blue moon, he does a double take while contemplating your future. There’s no easy way to make him talk about it without sounding clingy and demanding but hey, if he proposes, that means he must have done a tad bit of contemplation about your future together. He doesn’t be patient. Sooner or later, he’ll have time to think about it, and there’s no use in pressuring him. Just enjoy the moment.

“Playing with my friend’s kid completely triggers my paternal instinct.”
He doesn’t want to freak you out, and he’s not necessarily ready for kids—but damn is that baby cute. Observe how he is with kids and babies. How is his relationship with his sibling’s children? Or his younger siblings, if he has any? Based on experience, a guy who has an awesome relationship with his younger family members makes an awesome dad. Remember that he is potentially your life partner so if you see him gushing over his friend’s kid, his definitely a good candidate to father your spawn.

“I love you first”
He’s scared to admit he’s been crushing on you since you guys shared that elevator ride when you were rushing to work because frankly, you don’t even remember that elevator ride. You found nothing special about it, and it’s funny how you overlooked how handsome he is all those time. Unless you get him drunk, he’s scared off his wits to tell you he loves you, but just because he won’t say it doesn’t mean he’s not feeling it. Wait for the right moment then be the man and blurt it out yourself.…

Fishing Lodges in Homer, Alaska

Well known as the Halibut Fishing Capital of the World, Homer, Alaska, also boasts world class salmon fishing. Homer, a popular outdoor adventure destination, is located on the Kenai Peninsula in the Kachemak Bay in south central Alaska. The seaside community offers a range of lodges and accommodation for vacationers with an emphasis on chartered fishing trips and wilderness experiences.Driftwood Inn

In addition to lodge-style buildings, the Driftwood Inn offers hotel and motel rooms, and an RV park, all of which are within walking distance of downtown Homer. Chartered salmon, ling cod and halibut fishing trips are offered, as well as guided hikes in Kachemak Bay State Park. The Driftwood Inn is open year-round, kids stay free and there is no charge for Wi-Fi or local calls. Room rates vary.
Sadie Cove Wilderness Lodge

To reach Sadie Cove Wilderness Lodge, take a 10-mile boat ride from Homer to Kachemak Bay State Park between Seldovia and Halibut Cove. Custom built from driftwood, Sadie Cove is an ecologically conscious lodge that runs entirely on wind and hydro power. The entire lodge can be rented to private parties of six or more, or smaller groups can rent simultaneously. Advance booking is recommended. Rooms start at $450 per guest per night plus $150 for boat transport to the lodge.
Emerald Pines Lodge

Emerald Pines Lodge offers a choice of two private guest lodges, one accommodates up to four guests, while the other has just one bedroom. Emerald Pines specializes in chartered fishing trips and the owners promise no big crowds here.” Its most popular five-day, six-night full service fishing package provides lodging, meals, gear and processing of the catch for $4000 per person. Day salmon or halibut trips also are available for $250 each, or a combination day trip is priced at for $300 as of 2010.
Homer FloatPlane Lodge

Centrally located in Homer, the Homer FloatPlane Lodge has seven guest cabins with 17 total beds. Each unit offers private entrances, bathrooms, cable and Wi-Fi, with meals served in the main lodge. The FloatPlane offers fishing trips out of the harbor, as well as scenic glacier flights and bear viewing packages in cooperation with Emerald Air Service. Rates vary by unit and package.
Silver Fox Charters Lodge

Silver Fox Charters offers fishing packages with meals and accommodation from its 12,000 square foot fishing lodge in Homer. Accommodations for 12 people, up to 14 if all in one group, are available in six suites with private decks and bathrooms. Common rooms offers satellite TV, games, and DSL internet services. All fishing packages include processing of 50 pounds of fish per person and transportation to the lodge can be arranged. Two-night packages start at $1,400 per person as of 2010.
Twin Creeks Trailhead

Up to 16 guests may stay in two buildings at Twin Creeks Trailhead Lodge and Retreat, located on the Homestead Trail on Diamond Ridge, just above Homer. Rooms have private baths, Wi-Fi and fully equipped kitchens. Additionally, a 700 square foot yurt is available for group events. All rooms are non-smoking; rates vary by room.
ReferencesSilver Fox ChartersFloat Plane LodgeThe Driftwood InnEmerald Pines LodgeAlaska”s Sadie Cove Wilderness Lodge…

Why You Should Read Dating Site Reviews

Online dating is the trend now in the dating scene. Millions of singles worldwide are enrolling and signing up for dating services online. This means that hundreds, if not thousands, of online dating sites operate on the web today. Finding an online dating website is not the question anymore. You can do so by simply searching in Google, Yahoo or Bing for online dating sites.

The real question is how to find the right one for you. Checking out dating site reviews should help you on your decision. The type of people you will meet online will depend on the type of service you are using. There are different dating sites online catering to different niches. While some make it their job to keep the integrity of the site, some sites may not share the same goal. It is important that you check dating site reviews, and check different reviews. Get as much perspective from different persons as much as you can.

Different reviews should give you an idea of what the dating site is about, and how it operates. Read each review. Make sure that you get as much information as you can get from one review. If not, look for more. It is important that the review you are reading gives you quality and an all-around evaluation about the website you would possibly join. Reviews released for marketing purposes should be balanced out with testimonials and reviews of members and users of the website. You should visit a review archive for dating sites. This should provide you in-depth information about a particular website you are looking into.

Reviews in this archive follow a certain criteria to rate and review dating sites. This should give you head start on your search for the right dating site. A good dating site review should give you hints on what to expect once you have registered for that particular dating site. It should also give you an idea of how you can make your online dating fun, pleasurable and satisfying. Dating sites will offer you the privilege of meeting someone online, chatting with the person on cam, and to get to know the person with a reasonable degree before agreeing to meet face-to-face.

Dating is not an exact science and anything can happen, thus reading reviews can help you deduce the common trends in the site and what you should look out for. This would help you filter your searches to reduce the chances of landing a bad date online. Reading a dating site review will help you assess whether the site is legit or not, or with quality. You should visit review sites and read as much as you can. It is better to be safe than sorry. It is very important though that you check the relationship of the dating site to the website you are checking out. The review site should not be associated, in any way, with the dating site. The chances of reading a biased review are high for review sites, which are directly related to the site you are checking out.

All in all, it is very important that you read dating site reviews before you dive into a new dating system like Desire System. It is very important that you protect yourself with knowledge. You should know what you are getting into. Remember, that you are dating in a virtual platform, which means anything can happen. You have to be vigilant and make sure you are dealing with a legit and safe site.

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